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For some reason we as women have been bashing each other for the choices we make as mothers. Why? Do you think that it is truly going to help another moms to bash certain choices she has made for her family. We may not always agree with other Moms, but we should support them and educate them IF they are looking for input. Sometimes we must agree to disagree.

Yes, I am sad every time I hear of a mom that quits breastfeeding and I’m honestly slightly angered by one that makes a choice to never nurse her child. That was her choice though, and one that I CAN NOT MAKE FOR HER no matter what her reasoning is.

Yes, I believe breastfeeding is a health choice and not just a life style choice. Many people believe it is only a life style or parenting choice, but I feel it is much deeper.

Yes, I personally quit breastfeeding my oldest child. My oldest was born at a hospital with very little breastfeeding support. I had no lactation Consultants available and they didn’t even bring her to me for 5 hours after her birth. No support was offered to me after I left. We only made it 2 weeks before we added formula and by 5 months I was producing around 5 ounces a day. I didn’t feel like it was enough and stopped. I regret that choice and many others. Starting with choosing an early induction, but that is another post altogether.

Yes, I nursed my son for 33 months.

Yes, I would have nursed him longer If he had continued to request to.

If a woman with a 3 week old baby says she isn’t breastfeeding, fine. She has already made her choice. Do not condemn her. If you see a woman who is 37 weeks pregnant and 3 weeks from giving birth and she says she is not going to breastfeeding, ask her why? See if maybe she has never known anyone who breastfed and is uncomfortable or she feels like formula babies are fatter and there for “healthier”. Maybe all she needed was for someone to say to her why not? Why not try? You can do it. If we can’t get women to at least be comfortable enough try then we will not be able to change the minds of the society of the south.

We all want people to support breastfeeding, but what if we are asking them to support something that they didn’t choose for their family. What we should ask is for them to support our choices as Moms and not to hinder us in our choices. You can always switch to a bottle, but you can’t just “switch” back to breastfeeding.

Breastfeeding, bottle feeding, formula feeding, exclusive pumping, mixed feeding, donor milk, and full term breastfeeding (nursing to and past 2 years). Just support her as a Mom ladies. You are all Mom enough!

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About Blessed Are The Mothers

My name is Lisa Horstkamp and I am a private practice lactation counselor and a Birth and bereavement Doula. I became a certified doula with stillbirthday as of October 2015. I am a Certified Lactation Counselor (CLC) with The Healthy Children Project of April 2015. CLC Scope of practice: http://talpp.org/forms/scope%20of%20practice.pdf SBD Doula Principles of Service (Scope) http://www.stillbirthday.com/2011/11/15/principles-of-service/ I'm a southern woman born and bred. I am raising my "Southern Bell" and "bubba" the way I see fit. I started out breastfeeding my oldest but without good support I ended up using formula and not meeting my breastfeeding goal. I breastfed my youngest for 33 months, until he no longer requested, far out reaching my original goal of 6 months. It would not have been possible without the abundant support from my IBCLC and other breastfeeding moms in the support group at our local hospital. I'm on path to become an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant in the next few years and looking forward to increasing support for my area.

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